People need to understand that, while you can write a plot with domestic abuse, abusive relationships, rape, and other horrible situations, you need to do it carefully and take care to make sure its well written.
If your plot contains a man that gets abused by a woman and her actions are seen as “okay” and that she can be “fixed” by her love interest, that’s a huge problem.
And then if your plot goes on to have a woman being abused by a man and his actions are seen as “evil” and “irredeemable”, it’s another huge problem.
Both abusive parties need to be held accountable, because abuse is abuse whether or not it’s done by a man or a woman (or non-binary, but this specific example works within the gender binary). Not to mention the misogyny of a “crazy” woman needing to be saved by a man, and that the abused woman in the later part of the plot will be saved by a man.
The idea that you can “save” an abusive partner and “change” their behavior is so, so, so dangerous.
If you don’t handle this kind of writing carefully, you end up with something like Twilight, where people don’t even realize that Edward and Bella’s relationship is abusive. Where we end up with young, impressionable people reading these stories and thinking that these kinds of relationships are healthy and okay.
I mean, I understand that it’s your plot and you can do what you want, but this kind of problematic behavior needs to be addressed and your readers need to be made aware that these behaviors are dangerous and not okay or healthy in any way.
I initially hesitated about bringing this over from my personal, but this is an issue I firmly believe needs to be addressed in the community.
As many of you know, I’m a survivor of rape and domestic abuse (from both my parents and some past partners). I’m reposting this here not to start anything, but to educate my followers on why this is problematic.
If any of you would like to talk with me about this, your own experiences, or maybe you want to write a plot like this but want some advice on how to do it, my ask box and fanmail are always open.
Here it is. Something I’ve been planning since asktheshinysylveon tipped over the 900 mark. I’ve finally reached 1k here which means that’s three blogs of mine that have exceeded the 1k mark!
The other two blogs are asktheminees and askawkwardeevee.
what does this mean? it’s time for a giveaway!! and a big one too! So this is like a huge thank you to everyone in the community
now, to save your dashboards from drowning, details are under the cut
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Only a few UuU
I feel like doing some of these as warm ups!
Leave some pokemon in the ask box with a palette number, please uvu
Slowly preparing for a reboot
Happy birthday Mimi! I draw’d you a thing!
In light of recent drama, I’ve been thinking a lot today about everything that’s gone down in the community. And I think some things need to be said. Whether or not I should be the one to say them remains to be seen, but someone has to.
I understand that this is long, but I implore you to read it all.
Sparx and I decided it was time for a new icon. So here it is!
Whoa there who are these cuties?
Vet donation commission for Sparx who donated a generous amount.
I AM SO SORRY THIS TOOK SO LONG I REALLY AM PLEASE DONT HIT ME
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